I dont know what is the matter with me, its 8:30pm I am in Target to grab a little gift for my youngest son to open in the morning for his 4th birthday (sniff sniff...). But, I walk around aimlessly in each toy aisle, in the craft aisle, down the spring goodies isle... I couldnt pinpoint a gift - he doesnt have that ONE thing that he loves (except for Incredibles which thank you Disney you cant buy anymore)... Everything was just STUFF - more and more STUFF - I literally stopped and felt the store spinning like I were in a movie having a kind of out of body thing going on (though I wasnt, lol)... but I was surrounded by all these toys and plain as day I asked myself what value does this add to his life, I picked up some legos - we have thousands of legos, so what would more do -other than get piled into the bins that are already overflowing... I looked at a new bicycle, but he has a bicycle..... it just kept on with every single thing I saw, and over and over in my head I was being asked WHAT VALUE DOES THIS ADD TO HIS LIFE?...... now I am not crazy and going on some kick about not giving our kids gifts - geesh... but since Christmas we enacted a plan in our lives to not BUY our kids THINGS for no reason - as it is they get little goodies and treats here and there - for Valentines, Easter, etc and that is good enough - and just a few months into the year it is a treat to take the kids on errands - they do not ask for anything anymore - or beg or cry or throw fits over STUFF in the stores.... They were so excited to go to the Mall over Spring Break to use their gift certificates from Christmas at Build-A-Bear - they hadnt been to the Mall since Christmas to see Santa... and it was a quick trip - in and out. And I am wanting to be more creative with our time and activities so buying gifts that would get put in bins or buckets or played with once or twice seemed like an incredible waste. I just felt bad, one for having that feeling and another for having that feeling (yes I know I said it twice)... Suddenly they announce the store closes in 15 min please gather your items and check out - I grabbed some hotwheels and on the way home stopped for balloons because I had forgotten everything else on my list at Target, and bought BOLT, he has wanted to see this movie, and I dont mind buying movies really, I guess.
I was/am amazed at how this one sentence has affected me over the past few hours - past few months. I want our lives to have value that goes beyond any monetary amount, I want the value to be out of rich experiences, family togetherness, holiday traditions, self taught creativity, gained knowledge. I want our lives filled with family and friends and the times we gather and not the stuff that they got. Of course I love to plan birthday parties and I love to find that perfect gift that a person will love - its my nature to give - but as a mom, its my nature to teach, too. So, I wonder when you look around do you ask, what value does that add to my life?? What would you give up because you realize it doesnt add anything?? What would cause a major paradigm shift if you took that perspective and applied it??
I found this new blog. And just love the wealth of ideas it offers, and I love that they involve time together, and lots of creative energy. And I could meander around this blog way too long.... They add value - they give me ideas, they give me reminders of days past, and hope for things to do with my family.